I know our decision is not going to be something all of you agree with... but it doesn't matter. We made this decision together and think it is best. I got home from work and we sat down. We talked out both. We crunched numbers. We talked options. We went outside and talked to our neighbors (one of whom is in the Army and his wife is in Louisianna and he is here, for two years). Then we talked more. There were tears. We changed our minds. Then changed them back again.
But deep down we know we made the right decision in the end.
Ryan will go to 29 Palms for 8 months. I will be here.
He will focus on school, live in the barracks and study and not be distracted. I will work, contribute way more financially than I could otherwise, and be in Virginia. We will call, text, email and skype.
It sucks.
Going into this the orders were originally unaccompanied. This is what we planned for. Then to have the option threw a wrench at us. I love my husband and he loves me, we talked this over and over. I won't put our discussions here in detail, but we have many reasons for each side and this was our decision.
Please keep us in your prayers these next few weeks, if you don't mind. Ryan is checking out of the barracks next week and going on leave a bit. I will try and get a few days off before he goes to California and just spend it with him.
We can do it.
Good luck sweetie! It will be hard but I know you're strong enough to do it. What other people think shouldn't matter, a marriage is 2 people only.
ReplyDelete8 months apart will fly by, and the distance will build your relationship so much stronger, more than you know. Believe me, it sure has made my relationship with my Marine stronger...going through the 2 deployments we have gone through and all. Good luck, and many prayers sent up for you. Just remember "distance makes the heart grow fonder" :)
ReplyDeleteYou guys can do this! You guys will be in my thoughts. Hope you're able to get some time off before he leaves:)
ReplyDeleteI would probably stay too...8 months will fly by, you'll be home, and then he'll come home. I'll be thinking of both of you!! :)
ReplyDeleteYou guys can make it... you're in my prayers!
ReplyDeleteThe right choice is what's right for the two of you, not what anyone else thinks. Long distance is hard, but at least you know he will be safe. Eight months is hard, but not impossible...I'll keep you both in my thoughts and prayers. Best of luck to you both! Sometimes it isn't easy to make the right decision...this is one of those times. <3
ReplyDeleteYou can do it! It will be over before you know it… I stayed in California for 5 months earlier this year while my husband went to AIT in Georgia, even though I was 10 week pregnant when he left and could have gone with him. Staying close to family, friends and my job to keep me busy was the right thing for us. You gotta do what works for you. He'll be home and you'll be packing before you know it!!
ReplyDeleteAll that matters is that the decision you made is right for the both of you! You are doing what is best for your family and that's the most important thing. Keep your head up and before you know it those 8 months will be here and gone! Sending prayers your way, but you're strong and you guys will make it through! :)
ReplyDeleteWhat a hard decision to make. It sounds like you made the right one for the two of you. Best wishes for a speedy 8 months!
ReplyDeleteWe were forced with this decision a couple of months ago and actually made the same decision you guys did. My husband went to school and I stayed in Louisiana. Its really hard, but it is worth it. He has his space to focus on homework and do well in school and I have friends and a job here. Best of luck to you both. You definitely did the right thing and he is lucky to have your support and encouragement!
ReplyDeleteBless your heart. That would be a tough decision to make either way. Hope it goes quickly for you both!
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