tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6335606158433349051.post8021785277649964703..comments2023-10-21T08:04:41.507-04:00Comments on My Marine and Me: Faith and LoveAlliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13227260412683649907noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6335606158433349051.post-86475056025623634002013-03-04T14:21:05.418-05:002013-03-04T14:21:05.418-05:00What a wonderful and insightful entry. You descri...What a wonderful and insightful entry. You described the first 7 years of my marriage. Now we share the same religion but I understand your frustrations and wishes. Thank you for sharing this.TheAlbrechtSquadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15106715657150782077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6335606158433349051.post-82175102758450529382013-02-27T10:06:58.357-05:002013-02-27T10:06:58.357-05:00I really liked this. Sky and I aren't really o...I really liked this. Sky and I aren't really on the same page with this topic, and it's a challenge sometimes. But he's been really open to things, which I appreciate a lot.erikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09432371971747985519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6335606158433349051.post-31969628370244126722013-02-27T09:17:53.778-05:002013-02-27T09:17:53.778-05:00Honestly, Roo and I grew up in the same church, an...Honestly, Roo and I grew up in the same church, and we both believe similarly. I would say that it makes the fundamentals of what we believe in the same arena, but he is much more opinionated about the church we attend.<br /><br />We recently stopped going to the church we had always gone to in the area, because he didn't feel comfortable with some of the decisions being made. The people there talked about reaching out to the community, but they never did. And there was one occasion where we were given a leadership role, but no one seemed to support us. Anyways, after Christmas he asked if we could just stop going to church for a while since we were about to move. I agreed under the assumption we would try another church. Well, we eventually realized that it was just easier to not go during this transition time, and I can't help but see how much he and I both have liked the break.<br /><br />I will say though, I know that without me finding our previous church and being involved, I don't think Roo would have gone on his own. I think the big draw for us as women is the relational aspect (is for me anyways). I like talking to other people and being encouraged by other people. I need that. Roo on the other hand, welcomes a relational break. If he can go 48 hours every weekend with only communicating with me (occasionally. lol), he is a happy man. I think part of it is the egotistical personality he has to put up with during the week. I think once the weekend hits, he avoids people because in his mind he is avoiding possible confrontation.<br /><br />We were both raised Southern Baptist, and I know from our experience it follows the scriptures very closely, but the drive to go to church every week is sometimes pushed down your throat. Although the Southern Baptist Doctrine in it's written form is not legalistic, many of the people can be.<br /><br />Anyways, I would just say pray for him. (I'm currently praying Roo would take the reigns and help find a church or at least want to go in our new location). Prayer does make a huge difference. Also, have you thought about trying to find a Lutheran, Presbyterian, or Methodist church? Maybe meet in the middle? There is a Presbyterian congregation that seems pretty traditional to me, and they meet in the White Oak High Auditorium.<br /><br />I'll be praying for you and your husband to find a good community of believers and that he would step up to the plate and be the spiritual leader.<br /><br />All the best!Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18230816910999559593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6335606158433349051.post-32174024307527394902013-02-26T22:48:28.515-05:002013-02-26T22:48:28.515-05:00this would be a huge struggle for me...because yes...this would be a huge struggle for me...because yes they are both Christian at the core, but they are so very different. I don't know if he was more devoted to going that it would make it easier or harder you know. But more importantly, this is not petty!! Don't feel bed or lame for feeling or saying anything that you just said. It is all perfectly valid and extremely important. I wholeheartedly understand everything that you say, especially when it comes to the ceremony of the Catholic church and the varying traditions are followed in a certain way. I pray that you find peace in this situation, whatever path it continues on. I love that you talked about this, and you did it well. so many, I think, can relate to this.Rhe Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18080016059344575635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6335606158433349051.post-70907779270758181992013-02-26T19:42:23.082-05:002013-02-26T19:42:23.082-05:00My husband and I are the same way. I was raised Lu...My husband and I are the same way. I was raised Lutheran, he is more of the nondenominational thinking. We essentially believe the same things, but there are still differences. He wasn't big on baptizing as infants, where I feel it's my duty as their parent to do it. I went to church all the time when I was younger and I went to a Lutheran school, but not so much now. He refuses to go to a church unless it's a nondenominational. I'm not overly picky, I just think we should go, but we don't. Shame on us, I know.Karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08033554933698248094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6335606158433349051.post-16854268275413333182013-02-26T18:40:57.113-05:002013-02-26T18:40:57.113-05:00I don't think it's petty or unusual for yo...I don't think it's petty or unusual for you to feel this way. I would go crazy if Joe and I didn't have the same beliefs about everything.<br /><br />That said, have you thought of looking up a Baptist service for both of you to go to? He probably has a hard time asking you to go since he knows you don't really want to. I'm sure it's different and a little awkward for you, but it could go a long way to helping him. I'm Southern Baptist as well and I know I'd probably go crazy if I didn't feel like I could go to a church I was comfortable in. <br /><br />I guess what I'm trying to say is that if YOU come up with the idea and a few places for him to choose from, he might be more likely to go. I know that you like to go to mass, but have you thought about attending a Baptist church more often? I know the beliefs, traditions and things are different, but if you go more often, you might find that you like it. If you like the pastor and the people, of course. That's a big part of it.<br /><br />I can't imagine how difficult it is to deal with different faith backgrounds in a marriage. I hope you guys can find some sort of balance! Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16524398204443659883noreply@blogger.com